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Looking Into The Important Psychological Stages of Divorce

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It is well-lodged in the common sense of people that divorce is one of the most difficult challenges in life. No one really has it easy when it comes to dissolving a marriage. Aside from the need to have a competent Boca Raton divorce attorney or a reliable New York divorce lawyer to handle your divorce case, the psychological and emotional burden it brings is also some of the realities you must face.

Thus, it is important to know what one, who undergoes a divorce, experiences psychologically. Knowing this is not only beneficial for the parties of the divorce, it is also useful for those people who surround the parties of the divorce case.

Here, we will look into the important psychological stages of divorce as penned and discussed by Dr. Diane Neumann.

Psychological Stages of Divorce

Dr. Neumann makes it clear that the party who initiates the divorce and the one who receives the request for a divorce start on different stages at different times

  • Blame

The first stage of blame mainly refers to the situation wherein one spouse blames the other for all the bad things that has been happening in their lives. This stage is experienced by the spouse who initiates the dissolution of marriage while he/she is still living with the other spouse.

As for the spouse who received the request for divorce, they often go through stage one at the time when they are first informed that the other spouse wishes to end the relationship. At this stage, it is associated with disbelief, denial, and the feeling of helplessness.

The first stage is deemed as the most difficult stage among all other stages for this is where shock and fear of the unknown occurs.

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  • Mourn

This is the stage of grief. Several people who undergo this stage spend their days crying almost doing nothing else except weep. At this stage, the party acknowledges the end of the relationship. This is also the stage where the person becomes overly sensitive about comments and criticisms. Here, the party is preoccupied by his/her own feelings. Indeed, the party, at this stage, is lost in the sea of feelings.

Emotional support is essential during this stage; however, the party might still be confused as to the type of support they want to receive.

  • Anger

Anger is usually directed towards the other spouse during this stage. Here, the party usually fantasizes about the damnation of the spouse whether in court and proclamation of the non-initiator party as the wronged spouse. The rage is so dominant and a sense of righteousness is salient as well.

Although anger and rage envelopes the party at this stage, this is the stage where the non-initiator of divorce is most active and is willing to be engaged.

  • Single

Almost seen as a second adolescence stage in life, the party, at this stage, learns to depend and trust on themselves. They realize that they do not need a man or a woman to make themselves feel complete.

At this stage, decision making comes easier compared to the previous stages. Parenting is also re-established during this level.

  • Re-entry

The final stage of divorce is the stage of settling down. Here, the party is finally in control again. Decisions and commitments that are long-term in nature are easily made during this stage as compared to the previous stages since during this final level, the person feels that he/she is in control of the present as well as the future.

The Bottom Line

Knowing these stages is entirely beneficial for it basically allows the divorced party, themselves, and the people around them to look into the many ways of mediation and other forms of healing solutions such as joining yoga, sports, healing groups, etc.

Why Wrestlers Always Dominate Combat Sports

The Santa Ana Star Center in Rio Rancho, New Mexico witnessed the hostile takeover of mixed martial arts by wrestlers. The five division one all-Americans, two of whom are NCAA champions, displayed an overwhelming case as to why wrestling is the strongest foundation for MMA. The fights occurred Wednesday, July 31, 2013, on a night where Bellator and USA Wrestling teamed up bringing awareness to the Saving Olympic Wrestling campaign.

College wrestling teammates out of Missouri University, Michael Chandler and Ben Askren both defended their Bellator titles in dominate fashion. Former Oklahoma State all-American Muhammed Lawal (King Mo) won the Bellator light-heavyweight tournament finals. In addition, top prospects Bubba Jenkins and Shawn Bunch improve their professional records to 4-0 and 2-0.

Bellator lightweight champion Chandler executed his opponent Davis Rickels in a mere 44 seconds to remain at top of the 155-pound weight class. The Missouri Tiger was a NCAA All-American and two time Big 12 conference finalist. Chandler socked Rickels with a right cross crippling him to his knees, and then flew in with an onslaught of punches to the stunned “Caveman”, leaving him lights out.

Chandler improves his unblemished record to 12-0 in mixed martial arts. David Rickels fell to a 14-2 overall MMA record.

Welterweight champion Ben “Funky” Askren embarrassed his young 22 year old foe Andrey Koreshkov with his superior grappling. The four-time NCAA national finalist and two-time NCAA national champion at Missouri stuck to his word. He walked across the cage, took down the Russian and beat his face in until the fight was called by the referee and there was nothing his opponent could do about it.

The USA 2008 Olympic wrestler improved the class of ’08’s MMA record to 30-0. Askren used wrestling moves such as leg riding, cradles, power half’s and his Wisconsin grip to create the illusion that he was battling a child inside the cage. His control was so effortless that during the second round while on Koreshkov’s back with legs in, he started to chant “USA! USA!” while fist pumping.

The grind of “Funky” Askren broke his opponent after nearly three and a half rounds of punishment. Askren was recorded to have outstruck Koreshkov 248-3. The referee put an end to the annulation in the fourth round at 2:58. The Season 7 tournament winner Koreshkov drops to 13-1 ending his undefeated run. Askren improves his dominate reign as Bellator welterweight champion with a winning streak of 12-0.

King Mo (Muhammed Lawal) earned a TKO over his opponent Jacob Noe. The former Oklahoma State Cowboy used his wrestling skills as well to drag Noe to the canvas where he punished him. Lawal defeated Noe in the third round at 2:58, winning the light-heavyweight tournament finals.

The self-proclaimed King blasted through Noe with a double-leg takedown. Once on top of his enemy he rained fists down on Noe, who had no answer for it, leaving the referee Jeff Herzog to end the bout. King Mo Lawal is now 11-2 in MMA, and his opponent Noe skipped to a 12-3 record.

The 2011 NCAA Division 1 champion Bubba Jenkins shot out of the gates like a horse in the Kentucky Derby. The Arizona State wrestling champ came across the cage took down Berarras, who latched onto a Guillotine choke and then was repeatedly slammed by Jenkins. The fight leaked into the second round where Jenkins finished off Berarras at 1:05 in round two via a TKO.

Jenkins has been a human highlight reel throughout his college wrestling career and is now 4-0 in the MMA world. Fans love the excitement he brings to the competitions and it’s something that has earned him so much publicity. Expect to see Jenkins rise up the ladder quickly in Bellator and the MMA world. He is a prospect that fighters should be concerned about being matched up against.

Another NCAA D-1 All-American Shawn “Bunch the great” Bunch fought in only his second MMA bout winning by split decision over Russell Wilson. Not the Seattle Seahawks quarterback. Bunch is a former Edinboro University wrestler who was a NCAA D-1 runner-up. Bunch missed the 2012 Olympic London Games for the USA freestyle team by a mere point. Bunch is a young MMA fighter with loads of potential behind him, as he may be the fastest cat in MMA. In his last interview he shared some of his favorite training gear including his best shin guards

Bunch improves his new career to a 2-0 record and Russell Wilson drops to 1-3 in his career. The split-decision came after three rounds of action. Keep an eye out for Bunch as he continues to learn and improve in MMA.

For the full results of last night’s Bellator 97 fights, visit Bellator.com and follow USCS reporter Kyle Carroll for avid MMA and amateur wrestling updates on Twitter @jiblitz77.

 

Chinese Investments in the US Hit Record-Breaking Amount in 2016

 

Chinese investments in the United States hit an all-time high in the year 2016, recording 75 deals worth a total of $53.9 billion. That is triple the amount recorded in 2015.

Among the biggest deals were Dalian Wanda’s acquisition of Legendary Entertainment for $3.5 billion, Haier’s acquisition of GE Appliances for $ 3.3 billion, Tianjin Tianhai’s acquisition of Ingram Micro for $6.07 billion, the HNA Group’s acquisition of a 25 percent stake in Hilton for $6.49 billion, and Anbang Insurance’s acquisition of Strategic Hotels and Resorts for $6.5 billion. The owners of the said Chinese companies are among the richest in China. These investments will help them become more powerful players in their respective fields.

Despite being under Chinese ownership, most of the acquired companies will still operate under their current CEOs. The parties involved in these deals say that adjusting to the new policies they have to follow will not be easy, but will not affect the quality of the services or products that they deliver.

Unfortunately, this growth is expected to slow down in the next year due to some political factors affecting both countries.

Political Factors Affecting Chinese Investments

Several lawmakers in the US were alarmed by the explosion of Chinese investments in their country, which led them to think that it may affect national security. Because of this, incoming Chinese investments will have to go through intense scrutiny and monitoring.

Following the win of Donald Trump for the presidency, the US government might also start imposing steep taxes on foreign investors – specifically those coming from China – as this was what the President promised during his campaign. While it is not yet clear how the government would go about with this, it might cause Chinese investors to create other plans to increase their revenue without involving the US.

The Chinese State Council is also planning to implement stricter capital controls in their country in the hopes of strengthening their own economy. This idea was spurred by the observation that too much of the county’s money has been going out of the country, and most of them illegally.  No plans have been finalized yet, but it is said that offshore investments will have to follow limitations and restrictions. Deals over $10 billion will most likely be banned.

Despite these challenges, several Chinese investors are still planning to continue acquiring assets in the US as they predict that there is something more that they can gain from it. Many say that it would help them solidify their standing as a leader in their respective industries. One of these Chinese investors is Wang Jianlin, the richest man in China, who is eyeing to buy one of the big six Hollywood movie studios – a group that includes Paramount, Universal Studios, 20th Century Fox, Columbia, Warner Brothers, and Walt Disney. Jianlin also hopes that security concerns can be addressed as netizens throughout the country opt to use VPN China for optimal security.

Jianlin says he is confident and believes that his company has potential to grow in the US. He will not be shaken by any plans that the US or his own country might have to curb Chinese offshore investments.